Davetula Konsult

Bunmi Sofola Just how desperate are you to have a child? After exploring all avenues available to you medically, are you willing to seek outside help? Like natural insemination? Artificial insemination is when a donor sperm is introduced into the female vagina with the hope that the patient would eventually get pregnant. This method is resorted to when the male partner’s sperm counts are too low to father a child – or they are just blanks. All over the world, a lot of women are playing God by sneakily seeking the help of a virile man to help them get the much longed for child. These days however, with infidelity being condoned, some men have come out to support their wives in their quest to get pregnant, to the extent of agreeing to Natural Insemination (NI). One of such women recently quoted in a foreign press alleged that: “My husband knows what he wants to know. We have conceived through natural insemination and had sex with more than one donor over a few months. There is no do

The assumption that Nigeria is divided between those who “want” devaluation and those who oppose it is a false appearance. Any rational Nigerian, especially middle class individuals, who can be assumed to be rationally self-interested “want” a strong currency so that they can maintain real purchasing power and lifestyles in a globalized consumerist economy. There is no division amongst Nigerians, especially within elite and middle class society on that erroneous basis! The real argument is over economics and its basic principles.  Economics is all about how to reconcile “wants” and “needs” with “resources”-the most basic principle in economics is “scarcity” and the imperative of “choice” in a real world in which we can’t have everything we “want”. According to The Economist’s “Dictionary of Economics”, scarcity refers to “a situation in which the needs and wants of an individual or group…exceed the resources available to satisfy them. In the presence of scarcity, choices HAVE to b

Our democratic form of government  which many people still refer to as “nascent”, is rested on the tripod of the executive, the legislative and the judiciary. The sweet part of it is that the three elements are established to be equal and separate but fully operational in a synergy that makes them more complementary than cooperative in achieving the desired end of social progress for the people. However, because they are to function through the instrumentality of their managers who are human beings with their natural baggage of individual deficiencies and insufficiencies, the components of good government are not unknown to be made to rub against each other to the disruption of the entire administration. It sometimes leaves the populace bewildered and the course of good governance fractured. A few days ago, at the beginning of his well-deserved rest in England, President Muhammadu Buhari lamented that his paramount challenge is with the judiciary. He quoted his experience in the

I have had a hilarious time in the days before and after the Valentine day enjoying the powers of the social media at their creative best. I saw many versions of the President’s famous: ‘I belong to everybody and I belong to nobody’ from both the male and the female points of view as different forms of unfaithfulness and callousness were displayed. I saw the many creative ways male lovers used in dodging their financial obligations. I saw various results of Valentine day escapades at nine months and beyond. I saw the soppy, the romantic and the cynical sides of love. But one of the ones which will stay with me for quite a while is that of a lady who snuggled close to her man and whispered, ‘do you love me?’ in his ears. To which the lover boy naturally answered in the affirmative. ‘Can you kill a lion with your bare hands for me?’ she asked. Gently, the man tried to explain how difficult the request would be to fulfil. Almost immediately, she said, ‘then you would have to let me rea

Ugoji Egbujo My confidence in the president’s ability to rein in impunity is unshaken. But my fears that he lacks the adroitness and the personnel to do a thorough job on a comatose economy is accentuated Ministers are now distancing themselves from the budget the president, in broad day light, presented to the senate. Chinewtalu Agu of the Nollywood fame would have ejaculated – “azuikpokpo”! Unlike those unplanned newborns abandoned in trash heaps in Onitsha, those days, by nervous teenage mothers running from shame and elusive fathers , too fickle to take responsibility, this orphaned baby was birthed in pomp and handshakes. The president had bowed and smiled with a deliberate awkwardness intended to display a repentant commitment to the rigours and rituals of democracy and a certain novelty of it all. He is a born again democrat. The air of moral superiority he moves with and the disdain he has for routine politicians will always lace his appearances at the national assembly w

For the woman, one of the greatest challenges of her love life remains the inability to hold on to her man. The differences in the physiological and psychological composition of both sexes make this feat an elusive task for her. While the man has been described as largely polygamous in nature due to his flitting emotional and sexual needs, the woman possesses a more tamed emotional and sexual disposition and an ability to be more emotionally stable. This seeming resilience of the woman makes her a more loyal and dependable partner in matters of the heart, conferring on her the responsibility of providing stability needed to preserve the relationship. However, social analysts and psychologists have been able to ascertain the fact that a man’s need and,   what it would take for a woman to hold Mr. A, may not necessarily be effective in pinning down Mr B. Still, the   society has tried to tailor our minds by postulating that there are two broad categories of capturing a man’s heart.

Canice If you want to attract favour into your life, If you want to have people around you, Do not be judgmental. Nothing drives people away from you than having you judging them. . After finding out that she clubs, you start criticizing and judging her as if you re living a perfect life. After seeing him smoke, you dismiss him as a never-do-well. . Resultantly, people now have to pretend whenever they re with you. They can't confide in you anymore, cos if they dare, you will condemn them without an appeal. . Of course they will begin to avoid you. And you will start wondering why no one wants your company any longer. You start complaining that people hate you. You end up singing "Haters This... Haters that.." . No dear, People don't hate you. They re just avoiding you for their own safety. You re a terror to their comfort. . So many people are lonely and helpless today, all because of how others see them judging people. Its never a good sig

It is true traditional rulers have with  the time and  the wind, started abandoning bitter kolas and alligator peppers and falling for ice creams and chocolates while steadily keeping up with the Kardashians. No one foresaw what time had in store for our Pentecostal churches. Patience , contentment and abstemiousness have been excommunicated.  Bliss is coveted and  pastors now  envy the life of  Hugh  Hefner. Their predilection for  frivolity and controversy , their allergy to rigour, painstakingness and scholarship and their love for money and life  have  birthed a counterfeit Christianity. Monks must  see our pastors now  as   self-indulgent ,self-absorbed ,  bottle fed infants, lacking in toilet training.   And they won’t be too wrong. The authenticity of the 70s and 80s has been replaced by pervasive  shallowness. Many nominal Christians and ‘unbelievers’ have grown  a   disdain for    Pentecostals because of what they perceive as  hollow, irritating , sanctimoniousness.  Conspi

ONE of the most traumatic experiences in anyone’s life is discovering you’re in love with someone else whilst you’re already married with children. When Nkem, Franchesca’s husband, discovered his wife was having an affair, he couldn’t believe the evidence that was staring him in the face. Taking courage in both hands, he confronted his wife with the facts at his disposal. “I had no option but to confess to the affair,” Fran had said sadly. “My lover is everything my husband isn’t—kind, considerate, loving, affectionate and energetic. Although Nkem was visibly shaken by my admission, he gave me a few days to think about my future plans including the fact that I wouldn’t be taking our three children with me if I decided to leave. In the end I decided to stay, because of my kids. Now, I’m very unhappy and it’s giving me a lot of stress. My husband, poor thing, is trying hard not to make me regret my choosing my family over my lover but I think of my lover all the time and wish we are

Princess Nsikak I'm my mother's little girl. I just entered SS1 and was feeling so fly like a big girl. You know that feeling you had when you were in senior secondary school? . Same way I felt. Well, it was February, and guys were already asking their different crushes to be their val. Some got turned down, because the girls wanted their own crush to ask them the sweetest question of "will you be my val?" . I was very popular that time because I specialized in designing cards and writing love letters for classmates that wanted to give it to that special someone. . I made money, but I wasn't happy because no one was asking me to be their val. By 13th Feb, everyone had vals, even the least person you would expect had vals except me. I was moody. . 14th came and all girls in school had a touch of red. From red ear-rings to red bracelets, to red hair ribbons, to red flowers tied to their socks. It was a beautiful sight to behold. . During the m

Rose grew up in a devout family home – an upbringing that had guided every part of her life. When she was in secondary school, her parents joined a religious group that forbade television and radio – the devil’s ‘ work the weired-looking-beared leader of the sect roared. Naturally, all the usual teenage vices – smoking, drinking and illicit gropes with the opposite sex-passed her by. Instead, her teenage years were spent at prayer meetings and monthly vigils. It was expected that she married a member of the sect and a ‘fiance’ was rammed down her throat when she went to the university. Yomi, her ‘brother’ had already graduated and a part-time pastor. “What’s the point in furthering your studies?”, he wanted to know. “When we are married, you will have to give up whatever job you would be doing so that we could have a family. “ But Rose was determined to explore another world away from the one her parents had brought her up in. “Unknown to my parents’, Rose said, “I had started read

The economic situation is biting and many guys are vexing while as usual the ladies are expecting. I am looking forward to the day when ladies will offer to take their spouses out! Mtchewwwww! Their hands are as long as the neck of a giraffe! Oh! Did I just say that? No apologies! The hustle is tight these days as the present ‘Oga at the top’ is not a father Christmas, unlike the past administration. So money is scarce. A significant number of Nigerians have to spend wisely. No more flamboyance, it is time to tighten the straps of your boot. Unfortunately for you, that ‘bae’ you have been ‘eyeing’ will not look at your face if you lose your swag. Of course, there are other men flashing Ferrari at her while you are showing off with a Toyota Camry! Relax. Do not worry. You will sweep her off feet, not with extravagance but with just 10,000. Read on! Monday: Be a Gentleman Many people dread Mondays because it is perhaps the busiest day of the week. Be a gentleman on Monday and  f

Canice Just outside our vicinity now, I ve been observing a young lady like that... Most likely, She came to visit a guy she must have met on the internet. . Standing at a junction, She has been dialing the guy's number and repeatedly kept on telling the guy that she was on "that junction na" and even describing the colour of the top she was wearing. She has waited and waited and yet, no sign of the guy yet. . I started hearing her threatening to leave if he doesn't wanna show up. It seemed that the guy's phone stopped going through later on Chai... But I know what must have happened: . The guy must have sighted her from a distance and maybe, what he saw was not what he expected. Hence, he decided to hide. . Minutes after, the girl left, dejected. . Why are SOME guys like this? . Some guys are lucky to have a babe leave where they live and come to visit them, yet they abuse this privelege. But Look at us na... Just Negodu... Stricken w

Canice Why do guys avoid relationships? . Why don't they want to have a first kiss-less, hug-less and smooch-less date? . Why don't they wanna spend weeks nurturing their relationships with their new found angel? . Why can't they wanna buy gifts and gifts for their new babe for like 2 months before inviting her to his house? . Why would guys want to even touch their babe's body just because she visited? . Why can't guys just be there for their new girl just for sake of keeping her company and happy as her boyfriend? . Why do guys even demand for sex while in the relationship? . Why not take responsibility of your woman's needs without expecting anything else back from her? . Why do guys think that they need to be rewarded with sex just because they ve spent a lot for their woman? The reason why guys avoid relationships is because it is most times Expensive to the majority of hustling guys. . The reason why guys avoid first dates that are k

Well, there goes another “Veganuary”. I always hope it inspires lifelong vegans, but it feels increasingly like a month of meaningless experimentation during which people rave about trying veganism as though it’s a dietary fad, a health kick, a pose or a lifestyle choice. With irritating concepts such as “vegganism” surfacing, perhaps it’s time for a simple definition of veganism. A vegan is someone who doesn’t use any animal products. No wool suits, no leather shoes, no honey in your tea, no cheese on your pizza. A vegan doesn’t eat eggs. A vegan can’t eat eggs. If a vegan eats eggs, they’re not a vegan. Nor are they a “veggan”. There’s a perfectly good word for someone who eats no meat or fish, but does eat the occasional egg: a vegetarian. (If a vegetarian eats the occasional fish, they’re a pescatarian.) Being vegan is an ethical mindset promoting non-violence in which animals matter morally. If animals matter morally, we can’t justify their exploitation in any way. You can’