Lasting Relationships: Rule 9
RULE 9: OBEY YOUR FAMILY
Marriage they say is not just the affair of the couple in love, but also the affair of the families involved. It is a family
, one’s family has an important role to play in one's marriage.
That is why it is important for you to seek the consent of your family and blessings as well.
The blessing parents give their daughters before they leave for their husbands homes is very important. Without the blessing, the marriage may run into problems. Single ladies should always endeavor to listen and obey their parents when it comes to choosing men they would live with, the reason is that if marital problems eventually arise, her family would always stand behind and fight for her cause.
If your family, especially your parents do not approve of the union, you should obey them, end the relationship and look
for someone they approve of.
Ladies who ignore their parents before jumping into marital relationships, usually
end up having marital problems and jumping out of the union just the way they jumped into it.
This does not mean that parents are always right when they reject suitors that
ask for their daughters’ hand in marriage. Some parents reject good and promising suitors because of their financial, ethical and religious affiliations. Such parents do not have genuine reasons for rejecting the suitors, so you can insist on going ahead with your marriage plans.
There are many ways of convincing your parents to accept your suitor. You can go through important elders of the family who approve of your union with the man, these people can easily talk to your parents and make them see reason why they should support the marriage. You can also go through important family friends. Going through the church is another option, like a pastor to intervene in the matter.
However, if all avenues of negotiation fail, then the last resort , which I would not recommend to any lady is to become pregnant for the man, your parents would have no other option than to accept him. These days, if a man rejects his daughter suitor and the girl insist going on with
the marriage, she can easily do that.
An elderly member of her father’s family who supports the relationship can represent her father and accept the bride price on his behalf.
Marriage they say is not just the affair of the couple in love, but also the affair of the families involved. It is a family
That is why it is important for you to seek the consent of your family and blessings as well.
The blessing parents give their daughters before they leave for their husbands homes is very important. Without the blessing, the marriage may run into problems. Single ladies should always endeavor to listen and obey their parents when it comes to choosing men they would live with, the reason is that if marital problems eventually arise, her family would always stand behind and fight for her cause.
If your family, especially your parents do not approve of the union, you should obey them, end the relationship and look
for someone they approve of.
Ladies who ignore their parents before jumping into marital relationships, usually
end up having marital problems and jumping out of the union just the way they jumped into it.
This does not mean that parents are always right when they reject suitors that
ask for their daughters’ hand in marriage. Some parents reject good and promising suitors because of their financial, ethical and religious affiliations. Such parents do not have genuine reasons for rejecting the suitors, so you can insist on going ahead with your marriage plans.
There are many ways of convincing your parents to accept your suitor. You can go through important elders of the family who approve of your union with the man, these people can easily talk to your parents and make them see reason why they should support the marriage. You can also go through important family friends. Going through the church is another option, like a pastor to intervene in the matter.
However, if all avenues of negotiation fail, then the last resort , which I would not recommend to any lady is to become pregnant for the man, your parents would have no other option than to accept him. These days, if a man rejects his daughter suitor and the girl insist going on with
the marriage, she can easily do that.
An elderly member of her father’s family who supports the relationship can represent her father and accept the bride price on his behalf.
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